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- AGING AND DECREASED INCOME
- HALACHAH: BLOOD FROM "BESULIM"
Although in the Mishnah (64b) Beis Shamai and Beis Hillel give different
guidelines concerning having relations with a Besulah (see Chart #12), Rav
and Shmuel rule like Raboseinu, who enacted that one who has relations with
a Besulah must separate from her after completing the act of the first
Be'ilah ("Be'ilas Mitzvah"), no matter what her level of physical maturity
and no matter whether she actually bled or did not bleed during the
The ROSH (10:1) gives two reasons for this enactment. (1) Men are not
always able to distinguish between women of different ages and levels of
physical maturity. A man might think that his wife has not yet reached the
age of menstruation and conduct himself accordingly (see Chart #12), when
in fact she has reached that age. Therefore, the sages established one
standard for all types of women. (2) A man getting married for the first
time is often overpowered by his desires. If he knows that some women are
permitted even after they have seen blood from having relations for the
first time, he may give in to his temptation to be with his wife again.
HALACHAH: The Halachah, in practice, is that we require the man to separate
from his wife after the first Be'ilah, regardless of her age and whether or
not she saw blood (Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh Deah 193:1). There are only three
respects in which we are lenient.
- If there was no complete penetration, but only "Ha'arah," and the woman
did not bleed, he may continue to be with her (Rema, ad loc.).
- The Rosh (10:1) writes that he does not have to wait until he is placid
to separate from her, but he may separate immediately if he wants. (The
Ra'avad disagrees on this point. He equates the Besulah with a normal Nidah
and therefore requires that the man wait until he is placid.)
- The Rosh (10:2) cites the Ra'avad who says that a man may sleep on the
bed of his wife after the Be'ilas Mitzvah for the rest of the night even
though she saw blood. (Normally, a man may not sleep on the bed of his wife
who is a Nidah).