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Prepared by Rabbi N. Slifkin
of Kollel Iyun Hadaf, Yerushalayim
Rosh Kollel: Rabbi Mordecai Kornfeld
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Previous daf Nedarim 66
1) WAYS TO PROMPT REGRET
(a) The Mishnah teaches that even if he gives all he has now,
if this does not fully pay the Kesuvah, we do not tear
the Kesuvah. (Whenever he will get more money, he must
pay the balance.)
(b) (Mishnah): We may prompt a person to regret his vow by
pointing out that the vow includes Shabbos and Yom Tov.
(c) At first, it was thought that only Shabbos and Yom Tov
are permitted (after regret); R. Akiva taught, a vow that
was partially permitted is totally permitted.
1. 'Konam, none of you may benefit from me' - if he
becomes permitted to 1 of them, he is permitted to
all of them;
(d) 'May not benefit from me - not this one, nor this...' -
if the first becomes permitted, all are permitted; if the
last becomes permitted, the others remain forbidden.
(e) 'Benefit I give to this person should be as a sacrifice;
to this one, as a sacrifice, ...' - to annul them, a
separate regret is needed for each vow.
(f) 'Wine is forbidden to me, for it harm the intestines'; he
then heard that old wine is good for the intestines;
'Onions are forbidden to me, for they harm the heart'; he
then heard that onions of Kufri are good for the heart;
1. He becomes permitted to all wine and onions; such a
case occurred, and R. Meir permitted all onions to
(g) (Gemara): If the first becomes permitted, all are
permitted; if the last becomes permitted, the others
(h) Question: As whom is our Tana?
(i) Answer (Rava): R. Shimon, who says that one who forbids
several people by an oath, it is considered 1 oath unless
he mentions the word 'oath' by each one.
(j) (Mishnah): 'Wine is forbidden to me ...'
(k) Question: Why must we say, he annuls the vow for he did
not know that old wine is good for the intestines - even
if it was neither good nor bad, he may annul the vow!
(l) Answer (R. Aba): True - the Mishnah says, he is permitted
because old wine is not bad for the intestines; in fact,
it is good for them!
(m) (Mishnah): We may prompt regret by suggesting that a
person should be concerned for his own honor and that of
1. 'Had you known that people will say about you, your
way is to divorce women; they will say that your
daughters were born (out of wedlock) after the
divorce of their mother - that you must have seen
reason to divorce her (infidelity)' - would you have
(n) ''I will not marry Plonis because she is ugly' - and she
is actually pretty; 'because she is black, or short' -
and she is really white, or tall; - he is permitted;
2. If he says, 'Had I thought of this I would not have
vowed', it is annulled.
1. This is not because she was ugly or black or short,
and she became pretty or white or tall - rather, the
vow was a mistake from the beginning.
(o) (Gemara) Question: The case brought contradicts the law
of the Mishnah (that if she was ugly and became pretty,
the vow is not permitted)!
2. There was a case: Reuven vowed not to marry his
sister's daughter. They took her to R. Yishmael's
house; they prettied her up
i. R. Yishmael: Did you vow from this girl?
3. R. Yishmael permitted the vow; he cried. 'Bnos
Yisrael are pretty - poverty dampers their looks!
ii. Reuven: No.
4. When R. Yishmael died, Bnos Yisrael lamented; also
when Sha'ul died.
(p) Answer: The Mishnah is abbreviated - it reads thusly: R.
Yishmael says, even an ugly girl, and she became pretty;
black, and she became white; short, and she became tall
(the vow is permitted);
1. There was a case: Reuven vowed not to marry his
sister's daughter. They took her to R. Yishmael's
house; they prettied her up.
2) DEMANDING HUSBANDS
2. Beraisa: The girl had lost a tooth, and had inserted
a tooth in its place; R. Yishmael made her a gold
tooth from his own money.
(q) When R. Yishmael died, he was eulogized thusly: Bnos
Yisrael, lament R. Yishmael, that clothes you ...
(a) Reuven vowed that his wife may not benefit from him until
she gets R. Yehudah and R. Shimon to taste her cooking.
***** PEREK NA'ARAH HA'ME'URASAH *****
1. R. Yehudah tasted it - to make Shalom between a man
and his wife (a Sotah), the Torah allows Hash-m's
name, written in Kedushah, to be erased into water -
all the more so, I will help make Shalom!
(b) Reuven vowed that his wife may not benefit from him until
she spits on R. Shimon Ben Gamliel; she spit on his
garments (and the vow was permitted).
2. R. Shimon did not taste it - 'All the children of
the widow should die, and I will not budge (Rosh -
to lower the dignity of a Chacham, and) so people
should not vow freely.
1. Objection (Rav Acha from Difti): But her husband
intended for a disgrace!
(c) Reuven vowed that his wife may not benefit from him until
she shows something nice about her to R. Yishmael b'Rebbi
2. Answer (Ravina): Spitting on R. Shimon Ben Gamliel's
garments is a great disgrace.
1. R. Yishmael b'Rebbi Yosi suggested, perhaps her head
is nice? He was answered - no, it is round.
(d) A man from Bavel came to Eretz Yisrael and got married.
His wife did not understand his language, and on 3 times
did contrary to his request, which angered him.
2. In searching for something nice about her, he
learned that her hair is as flax, her eyes are
round, her ears are big, her nose is (shriveled and
appears) closed, her lips are thick, her neck is
thin, her stomach is inflated, her feet are wide as
a goose, and her name is Lichluchis (dirty).
3. R. Yishmael: Her name is nice (fitting), for she is
dirty with blemishes!
1. Her husband: Break these lamps on the Reisha d'Bava
(the head of the porch).
2. Not understanding that Bava means porch, she broke
them on the head of Bava Ben Buta, who was there
judging a case.
3. Bava Ben Buta: Why did you do this?
4. The wife: My husband told me to.
5. Bava Ben Buta: You did your husband's request -
Hash-m should give you 2 sons as myself!
3) ANNULMENT OF THE HUSBAND
(a) (Mishnah): An engaged Na'arah - her husband and father
may annul her vows;