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9) R. AKIVA'S WIFE
(a) She replied, 'I would want him to stay another 12 years'!
10) ONE WHO REBELS ON THEIR SPOUSE
(b) R. Akiva: She desires that I keep learning!
(c) R. Akiva learned for another 12 years. He returned home
with 24,000 Talmidim.
1. His wife heard that he was returning, and went to
(d) R. Akiva's daughter did similarly with Ben Azai.
2. Neighbors: You should borrow better clothes to greet
3. His wife: "A Tzadik knows the soul of his animal."
4. When she reached him, she bowed to the ground and
kissed his feet. R. Akiva's servant started to
5. R. Akiva: Leave her - my Torah and yours is due to
6. Her father heard that a great Chacham came. He went
to see him, hoping to annul his vow.
7. R. Akiva: Did you vow, thinking to forbid him, even
if he will be a great man?
8. Ben Kalba Savua: Even if he would learn one chapter,
or one law, I did not intend to vow.
9. R. Akiva: I am your son-in-law!
10. His father-in-law bowed and kissed his foot, and
gave half his money to his daughter.
1. A sheep goes after a sheep - as the mother, so does
2. Rava sent his son Rav Yosef to learn for 6 years.
After 3 years, his son decided to see his family, on
Erev Yom Kipur.
3. Rava heard that he was coming; he took a weapon and
went to greet him.
4. Version #1 (Rava): You remembered your harlot (some
texts - your spouse)!
5. Version #2 (Rava): You remembered your dove!
6. They quarreled, and neither ate the pre-fast meal.
(a) (Mishnah): A woman who rebels on her husband - her
Kesuvah is reduced by 7 Dinarim every week; R. Yehudah
says, 7 Trap'ikin;
(b) This continues until her Kesuvah is finished; R. Yosi
says, we decrease indefinitely - perhaps she will inherit
money, and he will collect from it;
(c) Similarly, a man who rebels on his wife - her Kesuvah is
increased by 3 Dinarim every week; R. Yehudah says, 3
(d) (Gemara) Question: Regarding what is she rebelling?
(e) Answer #1 (Rav Huna): From having relations.
(f) Answer #2 (R. Yosi Bar Chanina): From work.
(g) (Mishnah): Similarly, a man that rebels on his wife ...
1. We understand, according to Rav Huna - (similarly,
if he refuses to have relations).
(h) Question (Beraisa): The law of rebellion applies in all
these cases - an engaged wife, fully married, even if she
is Nidah, even if she is sick, even a widow awaiting
2. Question: According to R. Yosi Bar Chanina - is he
obligated to work for her?!
3. Answer: Yes - he refuses to feed her.
4. Question: But Rav taught, a man that refuses to feed
his wife must divorce her and pay her Kesuvah!
5. Answer: We first consult with him (and until he
divorces her, we add to her Kesuvah).
1. We understand, the opinion that says, she is
rebelling from work.
(i) Answer: Without her rebellion, her husband was comforted
as one that has bread in his basket (later, she will be
permitted); now, he is as one whose basket is empty.
2. The opinion that says, she rebels from relations - a
Nidah cannot have relations in any case!
1. We understand, the opinion that says, she is
rebelling from relations, this applies even when she
11) THE LATER ENACTMENT
2. Question: The opinion that says, she rebels from
work - if she is sick, she cannot work anyway!
3. Answer: All agree, rebellion from relations is
i. They only argue if rebellion from work is
(a) (Beraisa): Our Rabbis reconsidered and voted to announce
for 4 consecutive Shabbosos that she is rebelling; Beis
Din sends her a message, 'Know, even if your Kesuvah is
100 Maneh, you will lose it all';
(b) The law of rebellion applies in all these cases - an
engaged wife, fully married, even if she is Nidah, even
if she is sick, even a widow awaiting Yibum.
(c) Question (R. Chiya Bar Yosef): Can a Nidah have relations
(that she is considered a rebel)?
(d) Answer (Shmuel): There is no comparing one with bread in
his basket to one lacking bread in his basket.
(e) (Rami Bar Chama): We only announce about her in Shul and
1. (Rava): The Beraisa supports this - it says, 4
consecutive Shabbosos (when all are in Shul or Beis
(f) (Rami Bar Chama): Beis Din sends her 2 messages - 1
before the announcements, and 1 after them.
(g) (Rav Nachman Bar Rav Chisda): The law is as our Rabbis.
(h) (Rava): That is foolish!
(i) Question (Rav Nachman Bar Yitzchak): What is foolish
about it? I said it to Rav Nachman Bar Rav Chisda, in the
name of a great man - R. Yosi Bar Chanina!
(j) Question: Whom does Rava hold as?
(k) Answer: As Rav Sheshes.
1. (Rava, citing Rav Sheshes): The law is, we consult
(l) Question: What is the case of a rebel?
2. (Rav Huna Bar Yehudah, citing Rav Sheshes): The law
is, we do not consult with her.
(m) Answer #1 (Ameimar): I desire (to stay married to) him, I
just want to pain him.
1. But if she said, he is repulsive to me, we do not
(n) Answer #2 (Mar Zutra): (Even in this case,) we force her.
1. There was a case, and Mar Zutra forced her to stay
married; she gave birth to R. Chanina of Sura.
(o) Rav Zvid's daughter-in-law rebelled; her husband had
possession of a silk garment she brought into the
2. This is no proof that Mar Zutra's law is correct -
1. Version #1 - Ameimar, Mar Zutra and Rav Ashi: One
that rebels forfeits the remnants of property she
brought into the marriage.
2. Objection (Rav Gamda): Because Rav Zvid is a great
man, you flatter him (to pervert the ruling to favor
i. (Rav Kahana): Rava never resolved, whether she
forfeits the remnants (therefore, she should
keep what is in her possession)!
3. Version #2 - Ameimar, Mar Zutra, and Rav Ashi: One
that rebels does not forfeit the remnants of
property she brought into the marriage.
4. Objection (Rav Gamda): Because Rav Zvid is a great
man, you pervert the ruling against him?!