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Prepared by P. Feldman
of Kollel Iyun Hadaf, Yerushalayim
Rosh Kollel: Rabbi Mordecai Kornfeld
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1) WHY THE FIRST ACT OF RELATIONS MAY NOT BE ON SATURDAY NIGHT
(a) Answer#1 (R. Zeira): He will make calculations for the
party on Shabbos.
2) THE PROPER TIME FOR FIRST RELATIONS
(b) Question (Abaye): On Shabbos, one may make calculations
for a Mitzvah!
1. Rav Chisda and Rav Hamnuna said this explicitly.
(c) Answer#2 (R. Zeira): It is a decree, lest one slaughter a
small bird on Shabbos (in preparation for the feast).
2. (R. Elazar): We may apportion Tzedaka to the poor on
3. (R. Yakov): We go to shuls and Beis Medrashes to
oversee communal concerns on Shabbos.
4. (R. Yakov Bar Idi): We oversee mortal issues on
5. (R. Shmuel Bar Nachmani): We go to theaters and
stadiums to oversee communal concerns on Shabbos
6. (R. Menashiya): We arrange engagements for one's
daughter, and contract teachers (for Torah and a
trade) for one's son on Shabbos.
(d) Question (Abaye): If so, we should not allow Yom Kipur to
fall on Monday, lest one slaughter a small bird on
Shabbos (in preparation for the festive meal of Erev Yom
(e) Answer#1: We are only concerned when one is busy
preparing a meal for others.
(f) Answer#2: The meal for the Chupah is right after Shabbos;
the meal of Erev Yom Kipur is the following day, and he
is not rushed.
(g) This same concern also explains why the first relations
may not be on Shabbos night (and we need not say the
concern is wounding, as we said above).
(a) (Mishnah): A virgin is married on Wednesday.
3) AGADIC TEACHINGS OF BAR KAPARA
(b) Question: May they have relations that day?
1. Are we confident that if he finds that she is not a
virgin, his anger will not subside so quickly, and
he will go to Beis Din the next day?
(c) Answer: The former, as we infer from the following
2. Or, are we concerned that he will quickly calm down,
and therefore require that they postpone relations
until the evening?
1. (Bar Kapara): A virgin is married on Wednesday, and
they have relations at night, because the blessing
to fish was given on Thursday;
(d) We see that the only concern is the blessing, not that
his anger will subside.
2. A non-virgin is married on Thursday, and they have
relations at night, because the blessing to man was
said on Friday.
(e) Question: If the blessing to fish is so important, a
non-virgin should also have relations on Wednesday!
(f) Answer#1: The blessing to man is preferable.
(g) Answer#2 (Beraisa): A non-virgin is married on Thursday,
and relations are at night, in order that the Chasan
should spend 3 days with her before he returns to his
1. If relations were by day, the fondness would pass
sooner, and he might go to work the next day.
(h) Question: Why do we need both answers?
(i) Answer: If a man is idle, or if Yom Tov falls on Friday,
there is no concern that he will go to his job the next
(a) The deeds of Tzadikim are greater than the creation of
Heaven and earth.
1. A verse says that one hand of Hash-m made earth, one
hand made Heaven, but the Beis ha'Mikdash is
considered the work of both hands.
(b) Question (R. Chiya): "His hands formed the dry land"!
(c) Answer: In Psalms, the verse is *written* "his hand".
(d) Question: But it says "Yatzru" (they formed)!
(e) Answer (Rav Nachman Bar Yitzchak): His fingers formed the
1. We see that the moon and stars are referred to as
the work of Hash-m's fingers.
(f) Question: "The firmament tells the work of Hash-m's
(g) Answer: The verse means, the firmament tells of the work
of the hands of Tzadikim.
1. This work is rain (which Tzadikim pray for).
(h) (Bar Kapara): "You should have a shovel with Aznecha
(your weapons)" - we expound Aznecha to Oznecha (your
ears), that one should stick his finger in his ear if he
hears something improper.
(i) Rhetorical question (R. Elazar): Why do man's fingers
4) MAY ONE HAVE FIRST RELATIONS ON SHABBOS?
(j) He cannot be asking, why are the fingers separated from
each other - we know, each has its own purpose!
1. The pinkie is the measure of the Choshen
(breastplate of the Kohen Gadol).
(k) Rather, why are fingers slanted like pegs?
2. The ring finger is used to take a handful (of
incense or a flour-offering).
3. The middle finger is used to define an Amah; this
measure appears in the Mishkan, Beis ha'Mikdash and
4. The index finger is used to drop blood of a
sin-offering on the corners of the altar.
5. The thumb is where we pour blood and oil on a leper;
or, it evens out the handful of incense or flour.
(l) Answer: If one hears something improper, he can stick his
fingers in his ears.
(m) (Tana d'Vei R. Yishmael): The ear is hard, but the lobe
is soft, so if one hears improper things, he can fold the
lobe over the ear.
(n) (Beraisa): One should not let his ears here idle words,
since they are the first limbs to be singed (in Gehenom).
(a) Question: Is (virginal) blood stored up - or, is it
attached (i.e. it comes from a wound made by first
1. If it is stored - does a man want the blood (and
relations are allowed), or does he want to create an
opening (which is forbidden).
(b) If it is destructive - is the law as R. Yehudah who
permits this, or as R. Shimon who prohibits this?
i. If he wants the blood, and he is not concerned
about the opening - is the law as R. Shimon,
who permits something unintended, or as R.
Yehudah, who prohibits it?
2. Some learn as follows: If the blood is attached -
does a man want the blood (and relations are
forbidden), or is he intending for his own pleasure
(and relations are allowed)?
ii. If the law is as R. Yehudah - do we say that
making an opening is destructive (and
permitted) or constructive (and prohibited)?
i. If he intends for his own pleasure, and the
blood comes by itself - is the law as R.
Yehudah, who prohibits something one does not
intend for, or as R. Shimon, who permits it?
ii. If the law is as R. Yehudah - is the wound
destructive (and permitted) or constructive